marriage

Dear FutureMe, first i thot i'll send u this message in the year 2008 but ur 23 ur turning 24 in july. ofcourse u'll be married end of 2007. i.e. 19.5 months did you have a love marriage? i don't mean to make you feel bad if you had an arrange one. but i just wanna let you know that stop feeling bad about it. and if you had a love marriage .. hehe .. (may be god blessed u with love and u say "lol" like him and no more hehe) .. does your name,-his first name-and his last name roll of your tongue and how is your signature looking after all the practicing that you might have done. no you still weren't practicing his signature in year 2006 cause you guys haven't moved forward. i don't know how u ever pulled it off if you did ... i dont know how u ever became so amazing that in 19 months u went from being friends to husband-wife. cause the current me cannot even imagine the struggles you'll face/faced, you will have to take classes to cook non-veg. food or have diff. culture kids with him. remember ur sister-inlaw's nightmare (u should explicitly give him details if he's next to you reading this.) if you have an arrange marriage think about positivies in life - same values and culture, same economic background, u don't have to keep working - working could actually be a sport like many of ur married friend's, that u take on to keep urself entertained and let the other women in your kitty-parties know how corporate you are. even though you will be leaving your father's house nothing will really change. just remember what ever u do be passionate .. things will work out and u never know, ur sweet husband might actually be the man u totally fall for, if and only if u give him a few chances. in the end try to forget what u couldn't have and move on. he makes u laugh so what, u can come up w/better jokes to share with ur hubby. remember nothing wrong w/dreaming just don't expect them to come true. (movie line: ddlj) just remember when u have children 5 years down the line give them all the freedom to love whomever they want and never draw boundaries. if u never crossed them for the wrong reasons, when ur parents werent looking, chances are w/the values u would have given them, they will cross boundaries but not for the wrong reasons either. hope i didn't confuse u or make u cry. nikita