A letter from Mar 12, 2025

Dear FutureMe, You are so stressed out with the person you're with. I hope you're not with him anymore because at this point nothing is going well. From the beginning of your relationship with this person you were frustrated that he didn't know how to date you the way you wanted, on your "date's" you drove him around, instead of him doing it mind you this was in a city you were not familiar with. He would give negative response to the things you enjoyed. For example: the gym thing, how he commented on how anyone who works out is automatically a douche bag, and people like that are vein. He would say the same thing about people who dressed nice, But of course with you're insecurities you accepted these things and got used to it. After a while he obviously changed, and was on board and made some life style changes. Keep in mind that this took years. Fast forward to now, he's not the same in the sense that he became a little more health conscious and started dressing decent. It sounds like I'm only remembering the bad parts about him, well then lets talk about the good things. He's very supportive, and helps you with literally everything, and he loves you very very much. He's nice, calm, doesn't yell, or have anger issues, he's smart, college educated, has a good job, and doesn't do drugs. He's not a bad guy at all. Then why am i sending you this letter? because as much of a nice guy that he is, he doesn't make you happy. He doesn't even know how to flirt with you, he doesn't ever understand you until you're on the verge of breaking up with him. He was always against going out with you, and all he ever wants to do is stay home and watch tv or movies instead of doing something fun, and when you do go somewhere there's always limits. Not because he doesn't let you have fun, but because he's the type to just sit back and watch. You broke up with him last year because of this. you felt so trapped, you gained weight because of the constant stress you were in with him. Yes, he's a nice guy and no he's not a bad guy AT ALL, but you take care of elderly men everyday, you don't need one as a boyfriend. Now, the problem is he stresses you out AND his health is compromised. I know you love him and care about him, but you went from being unhappy with someone who limited you from exploring and really enjoying life even on vacations to now having health issues to where you can't even do the things you got USED TO DOING with him. So now not only does he stress you out because he still doesn't know how to love you, but now he can't love you the way you want because he physically can't. You feel bad because of course it's not his fault, he didn't do this on purpose, and again he's a nice guy, but you're going from bad to worse. you're going from constant arguing and not being happy to finally getting used to it but now having to get used to something that will make things even harder. why are you here? I think the reason you don't want to leave is because you feel like a bad person if you do. You also have no friends. by the way that's another reason this didn't work out before, he has no friends and he convinced you into thinking you don't need any. He is happy this way, he is content. remember that you are not, you are a social butterfly, you have dreams and goals that have to do with bigger and better things. you are not 80 years old trying to settle down. you are 32 .