Coping Mechanism For My 15 year old Self

Dear FutureMe, I have some strategies to cope with pain. Firstly, if you are enduring pain, my 15 year old self, I’m here to say it’s okay (from your 14 yr old self). This is part of life and that’s okay. Feelings comes and goes, and therefore, feelings are not as important as an action. Always remember you can change your circumstances by the action you’re taking. That’s what I want to tell you: the action you should take to change your circumstances, in other words, your coping mechanism. Coping with pain, unrequited love (I’m thinking you fell in love with Auji), procastination (or laziness) or purposeless. The thing you should do is write your feelings and emotion down, on paper, on a meaningful book (Like a journal) so you can read it later. And then, you should analyse it and correct it with a good expectation. “Why am I feeling this way” Then, think ahead. Focus on the far future, what should I do so I don’t feel this way anymore. Plan on what you should do next— Will this person matter to me in the near future? Rather than using that person as pleasure stimuli, I should find other pleasurable stimuli such as x, y and z Next, close your eyes and touch your heart- whisper to it that you can change the circumstance you’re in— that it’s okay to feel this way, you’re no alien. This would at least transfer your love to yourself.