A letter from Aug 17, 2022

Dear FutureMe, __COPY-PASTING from my Reddit Post___ Event 1: My dad wasn't hungry for lunch and kept saying he wants to loose weight and decided not to eat in the afternoon. He told us this a couple of times. My wife prepared some quick food for us and directly bought to our room for us two to eat. I asked her whether she asked my dad once while preparing. She said no. I went out and asked him and he thought about it for a sec and said he doesn't want to eat. Now while we were leaving the same day (me and wife) he casually passed a comment about how you guys should have asked before preparing. Also, he said he will go to sleep by 10PM, so try to be back. If he is asleep by then, don't wake him up (i.e., he will sleep without dinner as well). This led to some argument between me and wife without his involvement. We came back on time, he had already slept by 9:30PM and had prepared something for himself, had dinner and was asleep. Event 2: The next morning. So we had a tiny cheap wallclock in one of the rooms. Now my wife had removed the batteries on them as the tick tick sound was causing disturbance to her mom while sleeping while she was with us a month back. Since then the clock is idle on the wall. Dad came by asked where are the batteries and the reason. Then he just proceeded to remove the clock and drill a hole in his BATHROOM and put the clock there. This led to a huge argument with my wife saying this was just his way of mocking my wife. Since she didn't want it, he just took it from her mom's room and put it in his bathroom. All these arguments, she became violent, broke things, banged her head on the wall, tried to cut off her hair, screamed at the top of her lungs which lead to people gathering near our apartment. And my two close friends came home and tried to clear the air. She has calmed down only after an assurance that we will move back into the city where I was before coming here. But with 2 separate houses. One for dad and one for me and her. Dad shouldn't visit our home. I can spend and support my dad for day-to-day expense but have a limit. As she also wants to save money for her future kids. I know my dad had somethings wrong here. But her reaction was not justifiable according to me. At the end, she now has what she needed, keeping my dad and me separated. Deep down, I am not okay with that. I have just said yes half-heartedly. I am not sure what to do here. __________________________________________________________ I have now spoken with Mr. Samson Coke (Head of Security Zoho). He also has advised nothing can be done as the law not in favour of men in India for the initial years of marriage. I discussed the entire matter with him and one more guy called Bala. They say it is best to get 2 houses as per her demands. Anyways there is a meeting tomorrow with All women police station constable tomorrow. Let's see. Yesterday there was some hard verbal argument and name calling from her to my dad. She uses all abusive words. I am shocked that I married this woman who I thought to be a cute fatherless girl. Who will appreciate everything I do for her. _________________________________________________________ Now, coming to my feelings, I think I have started to hate my wife a bit. I think the love is gone. This is all now just blackmailing and screaming. She screams, gets angry. I comply to her demands. I am slave in this relationship. Stuck. Bound by chains. With no where to go. _________________________________________________________ I doubt this will get any better. I don't know what future holds.