A letter from Apr 25th, 2021

Dear FutureMe, Before, when i was 18 years old, i always had a belief in the idea of “before marrying/dating someone, you should see how they react towards a slow working computer”. Although that idea was supposed to mean well, i recently realized how unfair that would be. What if she never used a computer before? It being lag wouldn’t really be a big deal because she doesn’t understand the problem, so how can i draw anything out from that. And what if she regularly uses computers, and start screaming at it the moment it lags? The 17 year old me would probably pack up her bags and leave. But the “me” 4 years later realized that this reaction could’ve rooted from somewhere. Were people understanding towards her when she takes her time? Or were they always screaming and rushing her to do things? Now nearing 22, i have this sudden shift of principle. I pat myself in the back and start accepting that people are flawed— filled with so much emotional baggage and traumas. It’s not so hard to give people a chance to change; it also allows you to grow along the process.