A letter from the past

Dear Future Me, I wanted to write you to let you know you gonna be okay. What you are doing is one of the hardest things. One of the most thankless jobs. But when you look back, you wouldn’t change one thing. I am so glad you hung in there, because caring for your husband who suffers with Dementia/Alzheimers is so very difficult. It is not for the faint of heart. No one really knows how hard, how heartbreaking it really is unless they have walked that same road. I am proud of you for reaching out for help when you were able to do so. Taking care of a loved one with Dementia is hard enough on its own. But to couple that with the pandemic where we were all imprisoned in our own home was the hardest part. I know you came really close to some making some dangerous and tragic decisions. God has been walking right by you side every step of the way. I know some days it was hard to see your way, but you made it. You not only made your husband’s life more enjoyable, spending more time together. Being this clear example being a loving wife for all to see, especially your family. Our children learn how to become good husbands and wives by watching how their parents treat each other. The grandkids were watching, too. You know what they say, “little pictures have big ears”. You know what I mean. Now they know how to respect each other, and their parents and their spouses, down the road because of your example. What you did, that selfless act has made a ripple effect that is and will be far reaching. Also, going through this season of your life has taught you many lessons. Some are little, some are life changing, but all were so important and worth the many tears you shed. Jesus caught them all for you. Going on this journey really made me appreciate the present. Most times I’m always thinking about what’s next. But this trial has taught me to cherish my sweet husband. No matter what he forgets, no matter the trips we will never take. No matter what, I got the privilege to care and love my husband. I miss him, now that he is passed. But I have those precious memories to keep me company. You are going to be just fine. Sincerely, The Past Me (Michelle Breisacher)