A letter from Dec 27, 2022

Dear FutureMe, I asked chatgpt: I am anxious that I won't find a partner, and that no one will like me. Part of that stems from me not being able to attract that many girls right now. Part of it stems from my profession, as a PhD student wanting to go into academia, and my notions about how that may not be attractive to a girl. Part of it stems from feeling pressure to find a partner since I see many of my friends and acquaintances in relationships. I am a 25 year old male. I try to tell myself I will be fine and that I am moderately good looking, successful, kind and good natured. But it has been almost two years since I was in a serious relationship. What should I do? Chatgpt replied: It is natural to have concerns about finding a partner and feeling anxious about being liked, but it is important to remember that everyone's experience is unique and that there is no one "right" way to find a partner. Here are some things you can try to help manage your anxiety: 1. Practice self-care: Taking care of your physical and mental health is important for helping you manage anxiety. Make sure to get enough sleep, eat a healthy diet, and engage in physical activity to help improve your mood and overall well-being. 2. Seek support: It can be helpful to talk to someone about your feelings of anxiety and insecurity. Consider speaking with a mental health professional, such as a therapist or counselor, or confide in a trusted friend or family member. 3. Focus on your own strengths and qualities: It is important to remember that you have many positive qualities and that these are what make you attractive to others. Make a list of your strengths and focus on them, rather than dwelling on your insecurities. 4. Practice mindfulness: Mindfulness involves paying attention to the present moment without judgment. This can help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings and can help you manage anxiety. You can practice mindfulness through activities such as meditation, deep breathing, or yoga. 5. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself: It is natural to want to find a partner, but it is important to remember that relationships take time and that there is no timeline for finding a partner. Try not to put too much pressure on yourself and focus on enjoying your life and finding fulfillment in other areas. Remember that finding a partner is not the only source of happiness and fulfillment in life, and that it is important to focus on your own well-being and happiness. With time and effort, you can manage your anxiety and find fulfillment in your life.