Fuck Daniel

Melissa, You've sucked for the second day on your resolution to ignore Daniel. In fact, today, you sent him a music video. (http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aNYjOVo5IEw) This is the third time you've sent him a little snippet and he has not responded in any way, shape or form. I know what you are thinking: clearly, he wants nothing to do with you. But then why, WHY did he break the month long silence to say he wants to talk to me(you) again? He and I agreed on no talking until he sorts his shit out. Not responding for a week counts as NOT having his shit figured out. WTF, Daniel?! I think at this point, I'm done feeling rejected. Now, I'm just downright angry. Who the hell does he think he is? Yes, he may have been amazing for the first two weeks I knew him, but he's continued to treat me more and more like shit over time. He made me feel disposable for a couple months until I finally told him that he can just fuck off. He apologizes for sucking, admits he needs help and says that if he returns to me, he'll be a better friend. I go through a month of silence, am just starting to get over him and he shows up again. Fine, he wants to show up, fine. I was fine with it. Better than that, when he said he was seeing someone, I was HAPPY about it. It removed the confusion that he strangles me with. But could he leave it at that? No, of course not. Clarity is not a place he lets me reside. So, of course, after bringing my emotions to a place of stability with the whole new-GF comment, he has to go out of his way to tell me that it's VERY casual. It's working out "for the time". And by the way, if he and I ever decide to date, I'll know exactly where I stand with him. He's going to be consistent from now on. But we're not going to hang out yet. He's afraid that his intense attraction to me will be problematic. You know, because it'd be one thing if it were just that he found me hot but the fact that there's this deep physical and mental connection that gives him the jumpy-heart-in-chest feeling...well, that might make him feel guilty about his current situation (read: GF). ARRRGGGHHH!!! I want to scream at him: Why, Daniel? Why would you say this to me? Why would you torture me like that? You know I like you. You know that our interaction kills me. WHY WOULD YOU MAKE IT HARDER?! Does he think he can just keep jerking my chain around? Does he think he's that special? Well, fuck him. Fuck him and his 'consistency'. It's a lie. It's an offer he should never have extended because he should have known he wouldn't have the self-discipline to keep it. And fuck him and his 'intense feelings' for me. When people have that deep of a feeling for another person, they gravitate *toward* that person, not away. I am not going to be his Plan B. I am not going to be his puppy dog waiting on the front porch. I am not going to put up with his pathetic sense of communication. I have worked too hard in my life to get to the emotional point I am at and I WILL NOT let him disturb that peace. So, fuck him. I'm giving you a month to work this feeling into a digested reality. That means that in having read all that, you should have been nodding your head in reflective agreement. If you didn't, if you're still talking to him, if you haven't kicked his ass to the curb: DO IT! Don't be his bitch. You're better AND stronger than that. Sincerely, Past You (P.S. You've gotten enough of these letters now to know that my advice is right EVERY TIME. So you'd better listen this time.)